both male and female

In between male and female

different than male and female


Mere Abrams (pronouns: they/them/theirs) is a trans nonbinary writer, speaker, educator, researcher and advocate. Mere's vision and voice bring a deeper understanding of gender to our world, educating thousands of individuals across the multiple continents. Mere has collaborated with the San Francisco Department of Public Health, Gender Spectrum, Teen Vogue, Happy Hippie Foundation, the UCSF Child and Adolescent Gender Center and Frameline to develop programs and resources to account for and support trans and nonbinary youth (and their families) In addition, Mere's perspective, writing and advocacy have been featured by Yahoo!, Gap Inc., CBS News, Seventeen Magazine, Healthline, Haaretz,, The Anti-Defamation League, The Intersex & Genderqueer Recognition Project, Frameline, The Transgender Teen: A Handbook for Professionals and Parents Supporting Trans and Non-Binary Youth, on social media (@meretheir) and at gender conferences across the United States.  

Born in the Midwest, Mere grew up in a conservative culture with very strict rules about gender. Mere was assigned female at birth (AFAB), but always had interests and an appearance that very much included both stereotypically male and female traits. Without any language or information to understand the complexities of gender identity, gender expression, and gender roles, Mere spent much of their life under the impression their live would be spent struggling to fit into the female box. After meeting a transgender person for the first time and unlearning the idea that genitals determine gender, Mere gained a deeper understanding about the male and female aspects of who they are. Throughout that process, Mere found little information and few resources about nonbinary gender and how to navigate that part of who they are. This website was created to fill that gap in knowledge by providing you with a space to explore gender beyond the binary and learn about my personal experience.