when the benefits outweigh the risks

I went many years without telling anyone I was questioning my gender. It was only when the fear and risk of losing control and those close to me no longer outweighed the benefits of being my true self that I felt ready to share my trans nonbinary gender with family and friends. 


Before disclosing my gender identity, I thought a lot about how each person might react- friends, parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents. As I emotionally prepared for this conversation, I realized I did not necessarily need each person to understand the complexity of my gender to feel their love, acceptance, and support. It took me over 5 years of reflection and education before gaining an understanding of my gender. Though difficult at times, I strive to use that same patience with others when understanding me.