gender role dysphoria is real

I’ve been gendered as male more in the past few weeks than I have in my entire life. Cis guys will call me bud or dude, and interact with me in a way that makes me feel like I have to play along…play into their idea of what it means to be a guy. Well I don’t want to play those games. Passing as male has never been one of my transition goals. It’s actually something I’m dreading, because for me, being gendered as solely male is just as uncomfortable as being gendered as solely female. While I intended for #testosterone and #topsurgery to help me feel more aligned with my body, an unintended consequence is the pressure to “act” like society’s definition of a man. Something I never want to be.

Mere Abrams