we save our own lives 

surgeons continuously discuss top surgery results based on their own idea of what an ideal chest surgery outcome looks like (which is based on a cisnormative body standards). It seems very little consideration is given to how the patient feels about their own topsurgery outcome. Deeming top surgery results "unsuccessful" or "not ideal" without including the input of the patient is wrong and body shaming. Many trans folkx don't want their bodies to mirror those of cisgender people. Surgeons need to spend less time taking credit for saving the lives of trans and nonbinary individuals, and more time listening to patient's experiences and feelings about the surgery process and result. We save our own lives-- some of us simply need to go through the medical system to get there. 

Mere Abrams