you control your fate-- don't trust that others will have the answers 

I have more questions about gender than I do answers. After two days at the Inaugural US Professional Association of Transgender Health Conference, one major takeaway is that the experts don't know everything. In actuality, there is a lot they don't know-- particularly when it comes to the lived experiences of trans folkx. The providers are still learning. The pieces of education/information they are missing can't be learned in a classroom or medical/mental health training program. This knowledge can only be gained if providers take the time to listen to the trans community and the individual experiences that shape it. 

Mere Abrams